I’ve been thinking a lot this year about coaching. I want to learn about coaching, how to coach, be called a coach. So, it makes sense that I’ve started reading about coaching. I’ve finally made the time to start The Art of Coaching by Elena Aguilar. First of all…wow. Like, I hope to be a tenth as reflective and insightful as she is. Secondly, I love how she approaches coaching from the belief that “We can transform our education system.” Because I agree. I firmly believe that we can change school to be meaningful for children, not to mention prepare them for life.
Aguilar states that our beliefs drive our actions. She shared a tool she uses to help people get to the root of their actions and beliefs.
So it has led me to question my beliefs. I have spent this whole year talking about coaching and taking action towards becoming a coach. Why? What beliefs do I hold? What assumptions and conclusions have I made?
I believe that coaches are taken more seriously. That what they have to “sell” is required to purchase. I have heard the coaches at my schools talk about their position and what they do. But I’m realizing I have not taken the time to watch a coach in action or talk to the people being coached. There is a lot of “data” out there that I have not seen. I have assumed a lot about their role. I’ve assumed that magical changes are happening just because of the formalized relationship between coach and teacher. I think deep down, I want to rely on the title to help me do my job.
Well. That’s not good.
Fortunately, the infinitely wise Ms. Aguilar has something else to say.
Each day is a new day to be a little better. Learning coaching skills might be the right thing for me to do (and I really do think it is, despite some misguided assumptions), but I can work on addressing those beliefs about WHY I want to learn how to be a coach. Changing my title won’t magically get my job done. I still need to put in the work and time.
So think about your actions. What beliefs are driving them? Where are you and where do you want to go?